Many newcomers, both dominant and submissive, ask me to mentor them from articles I've written for several e-zines and online publications as well as from reading what's at my website and sometimes from meeting me in person. Sometimes I get referrals from others I've helped in the past as well. I feel this is a privilege as well as a tremendous responsibility because there are no rules here, other than Safe, Sane and Consensual, and no one true way for everyone. BDSM is subject to everyone's individual interpretation, though my main goal is to impart the importance of good old-fashioned common sense and to encourage everyone to play and otherwise interact safely. My role in being a mentor is not to decide who's right or wrong for someone else.